I’ve had to be more careful with how hard I am on my wife.
I work as a personal trainer.
Proper nutrition and a healthy way of life are a priority for me. I don’t eat junk food, smoke or drink alcohol. I get eight hours of sleep per night, drink the recommended amount of water and avoid refined sugar and fructose corn syrup. I don’t eat cake, meat or any fast food. I work out for a minimum of an hour a day. I often take a ten mile run just for the fun of it. I was pushing my beliefs onto my wife. I was giving her a hard time when she wanted dessert after a meal. I was upset if she skipped a workout to read a book. Eventually, I figured out that she was sneaking snacks in the middle of the night. She didn’t want to upset me, so she was hiding her stash of pretzels and muffins. I finally caught her eating a bowl of ice cream at midnight. I felt terrible. I realize that everyone needs to determine their own fitness and eating habits. What is right for one person isn’t necessarily the perfect method for another. As a personal trainer, I’m very aware of the need for a customized training strategy. I’m great with my clients. I hold them accountable but don’t ever make them feel guilty or if they’ve failed. I was not as perceptive with my wife. I’ve since completely changed the way I handle her. I actually stay entirely out of her eating choices and workouts. If she were suddenly to gain a ton of weight and start to jeopardize her health, I would definitely step back in. But she’s feeling good, looking great and way happier without me bossing her around.